Defend against psychological warfare - a Custody and Divorce Attorney's Perspective

Do you feel that you're living a nightmare?  A custody or parenting-time battle is a nightmare, and it's very difficult to break free of the mind-numbing, soul-draining struggle, to feel that you can breath some fresh air.

There is hope, though.  I sometimes say that the 'toolbox' that people use against each other in custody and divorce cases is a very-small one.  These self-taught practitioners of the 'dark arts' of psychological warfare use just the top tray in the toolbox -- a limited number of tactics, used over and over (and over.)  A few examples:

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  • (Bad) Ask the children where they want to live, or with whom they'd like to spend time,
  • (Bad) Have the children communicate or negotiate scheduling changes with the other parent,
  • (Bad) Ask the children what they and other the parent are doing during parenting time, 
  • (Bad) "Listen" to the children talk about their time with the other parent, or
  • (Bad) Schedule activities onto the other parent's parenting time.
All of these are psychological-warfare tactics, and all are harmful to children.   If you think the term "psychological warfare" is too extreme, then you haven't seen what I've seen -- over and over.  I have learned to defend against it.

If you have court-ordered parenting time, and aren't getting it in full measure, let's talk.  Some people say, "I know you've handled a lot of cases, but mine is different!  You don't understand the type of person my ex-spouse (ex-partner) is!  He's a narcissistic sociopath!  She's a control freak!
You might be surprised what I've seen, and the complex situations I encounter on a weekly basis.  If you can't get answers about your situation, or would like to discuss possible strategies for your case, my cell # is 312-493-4241.  Really.  I answer the phone.  7 days a week.

Let's discuss a step-by-step approach to restoring your parenting time, and to reclaiming your life.


- Kevin Johnson
  www.divorce.nu

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