Showing posts from April, 2018

Why it is BAD to obtain information about the other household through your children

I meet many people who insist on talking with their children about the other parent's household. Parents who are separated think that they see their child's true personality and their unforced, natural behavior. In reality, under the tremendous performance pressure of passing back and forth between hostile households, children tailor their behavior, their words and actions, to the particular parent. For Dad, they talk negatively about Mom and appear reluctant to go to Mom's house.  For Mom, they complain about Dad's girlfriend, about Dad's strange behavior, about how bored they are at Dad's house and they express reluctance to go to Dad's house. It's a perfect storm of misinformation!  Both parents, hearing negative things about the other parent, believe that they are winning the war for their child's love and affection. Each of them believes that they are gaining and are now more likely to become the majority-time parent. The child, with full know

Can I send a letter to the judge?

The court system is built on the idea of due process, that is the idea that each side receives notice of court dates, and has an opportunity to be heard. Also, both sides should be present and involved in any argument or discussion before the court. Except in emergency situations. So, judges are usually not permitted to  communicate one-on-one with either party or their attorney about the case, without the other side or their attorney present, except for minor scheduling details. That is why it is not permissible to write a letter and send it to the judge about your case. If you have questions about court procedures or rules, or about the laws that apply to your case, please give me a call at 312-493-4241. - Kevin Johnson

Who can you trust?

Attorneys have a fiduciary duty to their clients. That word means they are held to the highest standards of trust. One problem can arise, however, when a messy family law case can generate more money for an attorney than a case that is running efficiently, with a clear goal at all times. That is known as a conflict of interest. It may lead you to Wonder if you're getting the best advice, toward your goal, instead of walking further into a mess that merely generates billing for an attorney. Family law is a very complex area of practice. If you would like a second opinion about an on-going case, please give me a call at 312-493-4241. - Kevin Johnson