Divorce and Custody: Children's behavior and drugs

In Custody and Divorce cases, I have found that children are distracted in school, and often have trouble performing reliably.  Some of this is normal, and it's important not to overreact.  It would be tragic to give a child drugs unnecessarily.  Here's a recent New York Times article about the questionable rise in diagnoses of 'Attention Deficit Disorder.'

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/12/15/health/the-selling-of-attention-deficit-disorder.html?pagewanted=all&src=ISMR_AP_LO_MST_FB&smid=pl-share

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