Divorce, custody, attorneys, and psychological warfare countermeasures

psychological warfare
n.
The use of various techniques, such as propaganda and terror, to lower an enemy's morale.
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.
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In my work in divorce and custody cases, I often represent and counsel people who are the victims of 'psychological warfare' tactics.  These tactics are used by opposing parties to break their opponents will or resistance -- in other words, to "take the fight out of them."   Some tactics include ingratiating or co-opting relatives or friends, giving the other person false or misleading advice, getting the person to distrust his or her own attorney, causing severe financial distress and hardship, and otherwise making the person's life miserable and nearly unbearable.  These tactics often cause stress and suffering for any children involved, but that does not seem to deter some parents and their operatives. 
Fortunately, the people practicing psychological warfare are usually not very creative -- they often operate from a limited playbook and are somewhat predictable.   If you, or someone you know, is being terrorized by tactics that seem designed to break you down and give up what's important to you (custody of the children, or important financial assets), then please call me right away.  I would be happy to discuss the range of counter-measures that I've developed.  You are not alone!
My website:  www.divorce.nu
Location: 500 North Michigan Avenue, Chicago, IL 60016, USA

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